That's just the thing. I haven't given up any control. I want my iPhone to connect to 5Ghz when the signal is strong enough and connect to 2.4Ghz when it moves out of range of 5Ghz. And it does just that. Without me having to do anything.
I get exactly the same performance as I did having 2 separate SSIDs and my phone does the switching for me. I really don't understand the need for more control than that.
I think a lot of it goes back 5-10 years... back then, use was nomadic - e.g. move around and wake up the device (maybe a laptop), and most devices and AP's back then were single band, and most folks had a single AP...
In the here and now - we've got dual band smartphones and some of us run more than one AP, but many have dual-band AP's - and mobility now is a much more common use case - even with a single dual-band AP, hand up/down is a more common occurrence...
I'm running a dual-band two AP setup - 2.4GHz is the backstop, and there I've tuned the network for good performance everywhere - and my AP's for 5GHz are basically where people tend to be - in my house layout, the master bedroom and family room are directly adjacent, and my home office is on the other side of the house - so guess where 5GHz is _awesome_ and it overlaps - in the middle, by about -70 RSSI - which is really the sweet spot for clients looking to consider handoffs - either down band/up band, or from one AP to another..
I've placed the AP's based on mobile phones, not on laptops/desktops - and the other consideration is the media streamer/gaming boxes...
2.4GHz covers all of the house, the patio, and out the edge of the property with a smartphone - and it's a decent sized property at 26,000 sq ft... also considering that way out in the backyard (or out front), I'm basically looking at around 20 Mbit, more than enough for VOIP (2-way) or a unicast audio stream (Pandora, AirPlay audio, etc...
With WiFi, location is everything with regards to AP's...
Side note - I've got two AC1900 class AP's running at Casa de SFX - and I've moved from a 20/80 percent mix of AC/N clients to a 80/20 percent mix, and with no other changes, I've seen much better 5GHz results on my WLAN - enough so that clients that would have been B/G/N are now happy on the A/N/AC 5GHz band... and I'm running CH149 on one AP, with another in the DFS band - CH100...
With Single SSID, I keep 2.4GHz on common channel, at the moment, I'm on CH1 there (I've got a neighboring belkin draft N router running wide on CH11, and legacy Netgear 802.11g on CH6 as the two strongest SSID's, plus the usual clutter at -90 dB RSSI across the neighborhood - suburbs)