Freddi, so give me some parenting advice...I am a single father and my boys are good kids,,,,, they just dont always listen or do as told all the time. I have yelled......taken away there internet for periods or time ect..... so what do you do to get the to listen better ? They are too old to spank.....then again I feel like punching one of them in the face from time to time........but I not really into violence and being a single father , there mother would certainly pull some bs saying I was beating them if i did........so enlighten me?
I feel for you, I really do. I was a single parent of three, for a period time, while two were in there early teens. It aint easy to be the mean dad. I also don't believe in corporal punishment, and it wouldn't work if i did.
Long and short, do what you did, and pull the internet. Maybe a couple of days, if that doesn't work, a couple of weeks, and if that doesn't work, pull it permanently. It's not a constitutional right, as much as they would like you to believe.
When they tell you that they need it for school, have them stay after school, or go to the library. If they are going to undermine you, and your rules......make sure that they physically can't connect. All the way to pulling the DSL / Cable modem completely out. (Lock it in your trunk for God sakes) or in extreme cases, doing exactly as i mentioned above, and grab a pliers and pull the wires right out of the RJ45 port on THEIR device.
Long and short....If they are going to circumvent your wishes on internet access,
how can you trust them not to be pirating music, searching the web for synthetic drugs, writing letters to the whitehouse, or looking at kid porn? if you don't nip this in the bud, it MAY fall back on you, because
that connection is YOURS.
I don't want to harp on you, or make you feel bad. I don't want to be a alarmist either. BUT, this is the big world. You need to get your kids to trust you, and listen to you. If you can't then you need to protect yourself.
Good luck, bud. Parenting is a pain, and more so in the internet age. Be tough. if it means they just plain NEVER have internet....so be it.
(My 2c....thats all.)