I've been up and running smooth now for about 12 hours, so I'm feeling much better now, I've learned some things even if it frustrated me to get there. Thanks for your help degrub.
So I have this Netgear R6300v2 and this TP-Link RE450, you think I'd be better off turning the R6300v2 into a WAP upstairs, rather than using the RE450 like I was before, where it was connecting to the current WiFi and created a new one upstairs? Your logic sounded reasonable, and its easy enough to do and try, I know lots of people do this with routers, so guess I can too, I'll just have an extra RE450 laying around.
it is situation dependent. If you are getting enough bandwidth using the repeater function, then just keep it as is. If you experience bandwidth issues, try using the router as an AP and see if it helps. There is no one solution, but not using the repeater definitely frees up bandwidth on the two APs if you need it.