You need to choose one upstream DNS provider. Using two different will give you erratic results as it is a good chance the two companies will be in different data centers. The Stubby roundrobin is designed to share the DoT load. I feel that disabling roundrobin provides as good as results. When I run Merlin I also turn on DNSSEC in Stubby. For now the Asus firmware works well for me.
Well I tried the same with 2x NextDNS servers...even with 4x NextDNS servers. All show the exact same queries instead of splitting them on the different servers.