I wouldn't trust any paid-for-VPN as much as you seem to be able to. No court orders are needed from someone in as high enough power as you're fearing (government).
If you want to be as invisible as possible, online, you need to stop having your own ISP. You need a 'burner' device that you only use once over a coffee shop's free WiFi, and you need to stop using your 'smartphone' (no matter how 'dumb' the model you use, is).
Anything else is wishful thinking, expensive and just gives you a false sense of security where none exists.
And for your friend, you may trust him. But you have no idea what his ISP is doing, either.