So here is what I've been seeing after running it solid for over a week.
The disconnects don't seem to be directly tied to running out of memory-- I've been running with with tweaked memory settings and swap and they are still occurring.
I do see a lot of cpu stalls-- ALL of them showing stack traces related to network ops-- often Sys_sendto but not always.
I've also seen several kernel panics-- hadn't turned on minicom logging and so have missed the full details before it would reboot itself.
The migration/0 process is consuming a massive amount of CPU time-- migration/1 almost nothing.
At times the route's load will jump to 4-5 when nothing seems to be going on-- feels like it's due to the migration/0 process. This often happens around the time of disconnects-- certainly see cpu stalls during this time.
Several of my machines are using the WRT1900AC as their router-- caveat that any machine that needs a solid wifi is connecting to an Airport Express.
Other devices such as phones are using the WRT1900AC's wifi and rarely see issues... but they are likely 1) always re-connecting and 2) not moving huge amounts of data.